Changing Behavior in Others

I receive a monthly bulletin from Joseph Bennette, an anxiety consultant and Rapid Eye Tech. His latest bulletin contained this article by Elroy Carter. I found it very helpful in understanding how our behavior and beliefs have everything to do with the behavior of others.

Read through it and choose to see where you fit in. We can all do a little examination of ourselves and see what's there.

InJoy,
Cristi

Change Behavior in Others

Imagine that someone behaves towards you in a way that you don't like. You have a variety of approaches regarding how you respond.

One set of approaches deals with your own area of responsibility. You might ask yourself, “What is it about me that has allowed/permitted/drawn certain people to behave towards me in this way?”

The answers to this question may reveal one of two kinds of answers. The first is the opening of opportunity. Looking like a victim often attracts predators of some description.

Another answer or approach is more metaphysical. For example, say that someone is being very stubborn and not accepting your point. Some metaphysical schools of thought would have you examine yourself, to see if you do this kind of thing to others. Are you sometimes stubborn about some things? Do you sometimes refuse to see the points of some others?

A third approach is to look at the other person. Is this a typical pattern of behavior for them? Do they do this kind of thing often, with your and/or with other people? If this is the case, then you can take steps to remedy the situation.

These approaches are not separate, and can operate simultaneously. And if you turn these approaches into a checklist of three simple questions, you can turn just about any unwanted behavior from another into an opportunity for achieving more of what you want.

There is a new woman at work who I sometimes find quite bothersome. When being instructed in a new task, she often rushes ahead to the next step without waiting, and usually gets it wrong. She could so easily get things right if she just waited for the next instruction.

So I can run through my checklist of questions:

1. What have I been doing to allow this behavior? What can I do differently to promote the behavior that I want her to have?
2. Do I ever do this to others? Do I rush through things without waiting for the next instruction? Do I ever jump the gun prematurely, and if so, where and when, and how do I change myself to be more careful, more thorough, and more attentive?
3. Does this person do this with other people and situations? If it's not isolated to me, then it's a more general behavioral pattern. Can I change it so that it's different, at least with me? If I can't change it, how can I avoid it or minimize my contact with it? And if I can't change it or avoid it, how do I accept it and move on?

It's a simple set of questions, and I think that it can be very useful vehicle for catching what you don't want and turning it into something you do. So where do you use this? Well, how many places in your life have people behaved towards you in a way that you haven't liked? What kind of insights and new tactics can you get from asking these questions with all those situations? And how many ways does this new way of analyzing the situation give rise to getting more of what you want?

As for me, the answers to these questions have already proven very useful and enlightening, both for my own development and other things.

Elroy Carter
Mindlist

We created a little joy together

My friend Mishelle and I taught an 8 hour class today and created a little joy in the process. We had 10 students and two babies in attendance and the time really flew by. Together we learned about 7 universal principles and how to become more conscious of how those are working in our lives. After weeks and weeks or preparation, it was wonderful to see how the message is received, and to feel an energetic shift take place among class members.

I, for one, really appreciate the learning, whether as the teacher or the student. I remind myself that my thoughts are the place to begin, and I can choose to think any thought I wish. Getting that anchored in can bring about monumental changes, and it feels pretty darn good. Why think negative thoughts when you can always choose a positive one instead!

So, thank you to Mishelle and the twelve others who chose to spend their day with us. Thank you for the learning and for the light and insight. A little sharing of yourselves can create a lot of joy for others. Namaste!

InJoy,
Cristi

Catch the new movie!

This is exciting! Have you seen it? Gary Craig, along with an MD and a variety of other folks are all talking about the wonders of EFT. Take 7 minutes of your time to watch this new video!

This is particularly exciting to me because I once attended a class and my "neighbors" there were a couple of women on the video. But even more important than that, I love that more people are becoming aware of EFT. It is such a great tool, it's so easy to use, and it is free and painful. What more could you want?

Learn how to use this incredibly easy technique yourself. The DVDs are reasonably priced and easy to follow. Gary is an extremely generous man, allowing you to make copies of the DVDs to give to others. Surely you and a friend or 5 would like to go in together.

Go for it!

InJoy,
Cristi

Holographic Creation

Just about every Wednesday evening, you'll find me sitting in my van waiting outside the building where my daughter takes Irish dance lessons. Even though I enjoy watching my daughter do the hornpipe and the jig, I don't have that privilege anymore. She's at the level of dance where parents are more of a distraction than anything else, so we find other things to do with our time. Most of the students live much closer than the 25 miles distance that we travel, and they likely head on home, but I find a variety of ways to use my time.

Sometimes I pop in a DVD of Carol Tuttle or Donna Eden. Occasionally I even make a quick run to the Walmart that's 9 miles away. But last night I packed my bag with books galore, a highlighter, my spiral, an ink pen, and my glasses. Time to do a little more reading for the class I'm teaching in 10 days.

Hmmm. Let's see. I had Professional Dreamer with me, the teacher's manual for the Life Skills course from the Rapid Eye Institute, Ageless Body, Timeless Mind by Deepak Chopra, and an expandable file with pages on each of the 7 principles I'll be teaching. I also had the book I Create Reality, How to Manifest Your Desires Using Holographic Creation. I'd purchased it as an ebook several months ago but hadn't taken the time to read it until now.

For some reason, I picked up that little ebook and started in. Truth be told, I read it from cover to cover, finishing the last page while my daughter untied her ghilles and put her regular shoes back on. This was an amazing little journey. I was delighted and enthused. I was looking forward to finding time the next day to try out the author's recommendations for turning your dreams into reality.

So today, I took the time to make a copy of the "creation" page and headed to my sauna. Have I mentioned that I adore my sauna? That's another day's topic altogether, but let me say this. The sauna is a place of great thought. No phone, no television, nobody wanting to talk to a sweat hog, so it's peaceful. Me and my creation page got settled in, and off we went.

I followed the suggestions and had my first "holographic creation" experience. I liked it. In fact, I loved it. I felt so energized and "up" that I'm really looking forward to tomorrow. I usually only use my sauna every other day, but I've changed my plan for now. I want this to be my daily experience for at least a few weeks.

Don't waste a minute more! If you'd really like to learn the basics of using a very "energized" version of visualization, this is the place to start. It's very clearly written and easy to understand, and you'll be in creation mode just as soon as you choose to begin. You can take my word for it!

Fabulous Resources

Are you interested in feeling absolutely fantastic? Well duh, you're probably saying. Aren't we all interested in that??? Do you know that whatever isn't feeling just right, from your relationships to your health to your financial situation, has everything to do with your thoughts, beliefs and patterns? I have learned that it takes continuous, conscious effort to stay headed the right direction. For me, a combination of prayer, meditation, study, and action works best.

Today I'm sharing resources I've found that are really helpful to me. I'm often ask, "What do you recommend?" There are a ton of things, and a lot of it depends on where you're coming from and where you want to go. Everybody takes things with their own twist of perception, so there are most definitely different strokes for different folks. Here are some classes and some of my other favorites.

Available in Utah:

Skills for Joyful Living
These classes (sometimes referred to as Skills for Life/Living or Life Skills) are what we call the "other half" of the Rapid Eye model. The Rapid Eye modality is used to release stress, trauma, any negative energy. Then it is important, because our energy has "habits", to learn new thought patterns, get more clear understanding of our role in what we've been experiencing, etc. All Rapid Eye technicians are required to teach these classes to be certified, so there are often classes going on just about everywhere. If you're in Utah, this may be a class you'd be interested in working into your schedule (you don't have to be doing Rapid Eye sessions to participate - they're helpful for everyone!):

Skills for Joyful Living
One day intensive workshop
Facilitated by Cristi Fitzgerald, MRET &
Michelle Knuteson, RET
April 28, 9 am - 5 pm
Christopher's Herb Shop in Springville
$40 (when paid by April 25th), $50 at the door
Come with a friend or spouse and they pay $20
Fee includes lunch catered by Ginger's Cafe

Learning/using EFT - for local classes and teleclasses, too. Tell Randy that Cristi sent you. He'll be pleased!

Online resources

Emotional Freedom Technique - You can learn this either for yourself or to assist others. It's easy and is a very effective "in the moment" modality to relieve stress, fear, pain, cravings, etc. The training DVDs are inexpensive and easy to follow. Check it out! Get Started Package

Chris Westra is a man of "creation." I can't think of a nicer person to learn from, and he has wonderful resources to assist you in creating more of what you really want. Just watching his videos is enough to brighten your day. Chris has written numerous e-books that are sold online, and when you make a purchase, you also receive a plethora of bonus books and resources. This guy is generous!!! If you'd like to improve your health, your wealth, your happiness, take a look below. I have purchased his ebooks, downloaded them and put them in small binder or had them spiral bound at the copy shop. They're worth every penny!
What would you like help with creating more of in your life?

Creating "how to"
Learn all about holographic creation
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Wealth/Abundance
Is it time to shift your financial patterns?
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Health/Weight
Feel better and achieve your perfect weight
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Creating Joy
Learn the art of emotional transformation
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Online selling
Create unlimited income even if you're brand new at it
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Starting with her book Remembering Wholeness, my friend Carol offers a one-stop shop. If you haven't read the book yet, I highly recommend it. Don't worry if you find yourself saying, "Huh? I really like some of what she's saying, but this other stuff - forget it!" That's okay. Just practice taking what you're not so sure about and putting it "on the shelf" until you feel more ready to bring it back down and examine it again. Carol also has scads of CDs and DVDs on subjects related to health, money, relationships (marriage, being single, etc.), as well as a "healing center" where she takes you through online EFT sessions to assist you in clearing issues related to just about everything imaginable, i.e., finances, self sabotage, addictions, body issues, depression, you name it! If you're ready to dig in and get moving, visit her website by clicking on the banner with her photo.



Here's a wonderful way to enjoy a shift in energy. These are strands of gemstones that are appropriate for both men and women. They can be worn around your neck unseen but they're still busily assisting you in experiencing greater health and well-being. Just click on the banner above and enter a world of wonder! You'll find therapeutic gemstones to aid you physically, mentally, emotionally, and more. It's a lovely way to feel great!

Imprint 24-7
Have you heard of the work of Dr. Emoto and his book Hidden Messages in Water? It's shows fascinating photos of how emotions can effect water molecules, and since our bodies are made up of approximately 70% water, it's helpful for us to understand how emotions and messages are affecting us. These small stickers can be personalized by you and worn unseen by others, but they're sending a powerful message to the cells in your body.

Books & CDs
Professional Dreamer
You Can Heal Your Life
Hidden Messages in Water
Creating Affluence A to Z
Energy Medicine
The Promise of Energy Psychology
Rapid Eye Teechnology
Feelings Buried Alive Never Die

What do Boy Scouts have to do with it?

The Troop Committee? Huh? Wait! Aren't I the one with three girls and no boys? If I remember correctly, I had just two sisters and no brothers, and a dad who never went to a Scout meeting in his entire life. How on earth does that translate into me serving on a Scout committee?

Good question! The answer? Just a big smile from those that know. They mumble things under their breath, like, "We need some organizational skills and you're good at that." Okay, I'll admit to that much. I AM good at organization, but organizing Boy Scouts? I'm used to finding clever little places to put dozens of threaded bobbins!

I don't know a square knot from a half-hitch, and I've never been backpacking in my life (yet!) I know that everybody's happy when the rank of Eagle is achieved (but mostly I observe that it's a case of Mom being relieved), and I'm aware that even grown men go to Scout camp for Wood Badge because that's where my husband was for the past few days. What they do there, however, is mysterious. Not intriguing, mind you. Just mysterious.

Would I be willing to be the troop committee secretary? Uh, sure. Even in my really young days I pulled off secretarial duties at the Oregon Department of Justice, Consumer Protection Division (at age 16). And, at the ripe old age of 18 I was a secretary/receptionist for Criminal Investigation at the IRS. So, I suppose now that I'm 40-something, I can likely handle the minutes and publicity of the troop committee. Only now I need to pretend I'm familiar with things like merit badges and courts of honor.

So, it's an adventure. I could fall on the floor and assume the fetal position, moan and cry, or I could look at it as an amazing opportunity to get educated about an important part of my husband's, son in-law's, and eventually grandsons' lives.

I suppose I'll do just that. Please don't ask me to don olive slacks, a khaki shirt, and a baseballish hat, though. I'm all girl and I have every intention of staying that way!

Could someone please pass the chocolate?

InJoy,
Cristi

Professional Dreamer Week free gift!/ Class info

Here is the link to the free workbook offered in conjunction with PD Week, a 19-page Decision Making Guide.

This just in! - the audio from the teleclass has been posted. It is now on the Magical Download page that you get by email when you register for PD week. The audio is the second one listed on Monday's courses. Don't give up when you're listening and the sound goes off - that was due to technical difficulties and it will re-start shortly.

Contact information: bibleattraction.blogspot.com, bibleattraction@gmail.com

Our teleclass, The Law of Attraction and the Bible, will be held on Monday evening, March 26th. It's 11 p.m. EDT. You need to register with PD Week to get the access information. Go to the website and click on "register now" - it's FREE. You'll find our bio info when you click on the blue star in Friday's column on the "events" page. If you miss it live or the lines are full, check back on the program page (which you get access to after registering) and you'll find the audio posted. We look forward to an enjoyable evening.

InJoy!
Cristi and Mike

It's launch day!

This day has been a long time in coming. I have been after my husband, Mike, to write a non-technical book that would appeal to a broader audience than the computer geek stuff he writes to pay the bills. Today marks the day that this has been realized and we're so excited!

For quite some time now we have been involved with learning, teaching, and applying the Law of Attraction. I teach it in classes and when working with clients in my Rapid Eye practice. He mainly uses it (although referring to it in more traditional ways, i.e., The Law of the Harvest) while counseling members of the congregation at our church, helping them to understand that their beliefs and behaviors have everything to do with what's going on in their lives. When the movie The Secret came out, we were so thrilled and delighted. It was a wonderful thing to have it so clearly spell out and illustrate the Law of Attraction. For us it just built upon the belief we already had that God is in charge of the whole universe and whatever ways we apply the law are always subject to his will. Then came the attention from the media, and along with it came the backlash of negativity and criticism. Mike and I had already discussed the idea of a book outlining where this law was taught in the Bible, and the impetus really came when we saw the negativity and sometimes ignorance displayed by many, particularly those of the religious community. So, with material he'd already collected, he began writing like a mad man. The opportunity for us to be a part of Professional Dreamer week came knocking on our door just as he was nearing completion, and the timing couldn't have been any better. So, here it is, four days before we present our teleclass on this timely subject, and he has launched the book online.



We're so excited. We're thrilled. We're grateful. It was a wonder watching all of the pieces fall right into place because we knew if we'd tried to make it all happen ourselves, it wouldn't have worked out nearly as well or smoothly as this has. We had set some pretty big intentions of our own and we're now watching the universe do it's great work of organizing the details.

And this is only the beginning. There are numerous other books not far from completion. The book, The Law of Attraction and the Bible, is available for purchase as an e-book here. Eventually it will become a hard bound volume, but this was the quickest way to get the information out to the world.

Mike will be sharing plenty of thoughts and insights on this subject by teleclass through Professional Dreamer week. The teleclass is scheduled for Monday, March 26, at 9 p.m. Mountain Daylight Time, and is free. You only need to go to the Professional Dreamer Week website to register.

InJoy,
Cristi